Creating or Mis-Creating: Who is responsible?

The ‘Law of Attraction' says that the energy we manifest through our thoughts, feelings and beliefs is what we also attract into our lives. This connects with the saying that "You are responsible for what you create". While all this is true, it is also over simplified and we tend to forget that every single human being on this planet is either creating or mis-creating their personal environment.

Mis-creating is when we manifest people or experiences into our lives that our conscious mind defines as bad or negative. This gives us a clue to what part of our psyche is the main ‘creator' or ‘attractor' of our personal experience/environment. It is the part that C. J. Jung referred to as our ‘Personal Shadow'. Our personal shadow is a conglomeration of all the ‘bad' aspects of our personality that we were taught from birth was unacceptable. As well as our own interpretation of hurtful/painful experiences and the beliefs formed from them. So we find ourselves in a world where everyone has a personal shadow and everyone is creating or mis-creating their own reality. If you step back to visualize this,  it appears as a giant weaving of threads, some interconnecting, some seeming to go nowhere, some in chaotic array and some in poetic order, some colourfully alive and some darkly oppressive. So who is responsible for what and what does responsibility really mean?

Responsibility actually refers to the ‘ability to respond'; the key here is to know and understand yourself, which includes your personal shadow. This is being aware of thoughts and beliefs that do not work for you; in others words, which do not create joy and harmony in your life. When you are aware of something about yourself, which does not work for you, you have the ability to respond to it, by changing it. Therefore every individual is responsible for their own thoughts, beliefs, feelings, choices and behaviours that fulfil their choices.

No one is responsible for another's thoughts, beliefs, choices and behaviours. This means that if we experience any form of abuse or violence in our lives we are not responsible for that person's choice and action to hurt us; they alone are responsible for what they do. It is the same when people treat us with consideration, courtesy and love; they alone are responsible for what they do. So how does this work in with the phrase ‘you create your own reality' or ‘you are responsible for what you create'? This is where the ‘Law of Attraction' has its effect. What we feel, think and believe forms an energy current or field around our body that others, usually unconsciously, can sense or pick up. How they energetically read where you are at and what they physically choose to do with that information is their responsibility.

For example: Person A is walking down the street, they believe they are a vulnerable/weak person and that the world is full of nasty and mean people. Along comes person B, who has been taught that it is ok to pick on someone they perceive as weak. Person B sees person A, unconsciously senses their energy field and thinks to themselves ‘there's a weak person'. The idea or choice enters person B's head: ‘I would like to beat them up'. They then follow that choice into action, leaving person A bleeding in the street. In this type of scenario Person A is only responsible for the energy they put out that enables them to become vulnerable to another. Person B is responsible for their thought, choice and action/Behaviour. Person B holds three levels of responsibility to person A's one level of responsibility. 

Person B had three opportunities to use their ‘ability to respond' to this situation:

1. They had ‘ability to respond' to their first thought by dismissing it. Thereby making a different choice
2. After recognising their violent choice, they had ‘ability to respond' to it by changing their choice and deciding that they did not have the right to hurt another person
3. After beating person A, person B had ‘ability to respond' by recognising their Behaviour, feeling remorse and taking person A to the hospital

Person A on the other hand had one opportunity to use their ‘ability to respond' before attracting the possibility for this type of situation.

1.    They had ‘ability to respond' to their beliefs about their self and people around them, by recognising them and changing them. Had their energy output been different, by believing they were strong or safe and that people always treat them well, it would have been unlikely for them to have attracted person B's attention in the first place.

This scenario shows that while we may have belief structures, thoughts and feelings that can attract unbalanced and hurtful experiences into our lives, we are not responsible for what others choose to do to us. We are responsible for our self, for how we perceive the world around us, for our own healing and for how we interact with our own environment and the people in it. Therefore it is important to recognise that it is not our fault when someone chooses to hurts us; it is from this point that one can begin to recognise their ‘ability to respond' and to heal.